Love yourself more! I heard this for years but what does it really mean? My first reaction when hearing this was, “I do love myself”. It took a lot of self inquiry and challenging reflections to fully understand the meaning of love yourself more.
Self love is much more than caring for your physical body, nourishing yourself, taking your vitamins and exercising. This is self care, which is an aspect of self love. True self love will not only change your life but everything and everyone you attract and how they treat you.
I discovered that self love for me meant letting go of the burden of carrying others, feeling obligated and responsible thus putting myself second in the name of false service. I did this unconsciously by worrying about others or feeling like I needed to inform them or save them in some fashion. I would have dreams of me trying to fly with a backpack on. No-one is truly of service until they have completely freed themselves which then can automatically free thousands to millions. Until that time, you are sacrificing your energy through energetic cords. Your personal energy will suffer from this as well as your health and wealth. My lesson was to do what was best for me by putting myself first without feeling guilty. Releasing all guilt and obligation is an act of self love.
On the same note is having good personal boundaries and being able to verbalize them along with getting your needs met which means asking for help when you need it. It takes a lot of energy to do everything by yourself and to constantly compromise your energy by having open boundaries.
Forgiveness is a huge act of self love because any unresolved emotions creates an energetic cord between you and the other person. This cord carries unresolved pain and anger and inhibits creative energy and joy. Forgiveness needs to be extended to organizations, corporations, governments, God and most importantly YOURSELF. Self forgiveness is one of the greatest keys to self love. Forgiving yourself for what you did, didn’t do, are, aren’t, how you did it, how long it took you and everything in between. Forgiveness will offer you freedom.
Self judgment is self abuse. It’s like shooting yourself with an energetic bullet. You will know if you are judging yourself if you judge others. Would of’s, should of’s or could of’s along with anything less than full self acceptance of who you are and who you aren’t even with all of your patterns, habits, etc. are examples of self judgment. What you judge in others is what you judge in yourself. To be able to lift up above the judgment and witness the judger while loving him/her is a way to resolve this.
Finally, trusting your divine guidance without engaging the mind is self love in its ascended state. It’s the point where you have finally loved yourself enough that trust and love become the same energy. You love yourself enough to trust yourself.
All of this takes tenacity, courage and self observation, but is worth it. The rewards will be bountiful and your life will flourish.
